Dating is like a muscle, if you don’t exercise it will disappear. Quicker than most of us would like, unfortunately. The positive side of this is the more you do it, the better you get at dating. You may think that’s not even possible, but just like with anything knowledge and experience equals power. You learn to become a better conversationalist, if you keep your mind open you learn from every person you meet and you usually get some great stories and adventures to talk about along the way! See? That doesn’t sound so bad!
If we break it down simply, dating is simply getting to know someone to determine whether you two are compatible or not. It can also really help you get to know yourself in many ways. You start to learn what your deal-breakers are and how a person can bring out different sides of you. If you are used to going on dates it will help you from getting anxious before a date with a guy you really clicked with from the get-go. You won’t put so much pressure on yourself because you do this all of the time! Also, you may be surprised that the shy guy who you weren’t so crazy about turns out to be an amazing person once he’s with you one on one. That’s why it’s good to give people a chance, just like they are taking a chance on you.
Now you’re probably thinking that you’d love to go on these all of these fun dates, but how on earth can I go on them if nobody ever asks me out? So many women say that no men are interested in them. They say, men just don’t hit on me. I’m not their type, I’m too intimidating, I’m not pretty enough etc. etc. I believe this is just a mindset that women have to keep them from becoming vulnerable with a man. If you put yourself out there, there is a chance you could get hurt and that can be very scary. What’s even more scary is if you never put yourself out there and lose out on amazing experiences and the opportunity to be in love. So, change your perspective and start to notice when men go out of their way to talk to you, don’t always walk around with headphones in, go out with your friends and be social, join groups,gyms or clubs of your own interests. Chances are the men there also share some of your interests which is a great way to meet someone. Just changing your mindset and thinking that there are a lot of great interesting men in this world will start to open your eyes up to people around you that you may have not noticed before this.
It’s also good to note that it does seem difficult these days for men to actually approach women and ask them out on a proper date. (Men get scared/nervous, too) So, always be polite no matter what your answer is. Personally, I usually like to go on a first date and just get to know the person a little better. You have nothing to lose in the end. If you aren’t interested, be gracious and politely let him know. It’s not fair to lead somebody on and waste their time.
Online dating is also a great option to meet people! Many women ask if any decent men actually use online dating apps and and the answer is yes! If you are considering a site online to find a potential partner, why wouldn’t a man be using it for the same purpose? Of course, do your research and look at which apps/sites feel right for you. They all have different concepts. Also, if you plan on meeting someone in person that you met online, make sure to take precautions, meet them in a public place, tell a family member or friend where you are going etc.